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Overview
Attachment styles therapy helps individuals understand how their early relationships and experiences shaped their patterns of connecting with others. We explore secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles to help clients develop more secure ways of relating.
Understanding Attachment Styles
Attachment styles are the patterns we develop early in life for connecting with others, and they shape how we experience closeness, trust, and conflict in adult relationships. Understanding your attachment style can be a powerful key to understanding why your relationships unfold the way they do.
Attachment patterns may be showing up if you experience:
- Fear of abandonment or being 'too much'
- Difficulty trusting or depending on others
- Pulling away when relationships get close
- Anxiety about a partner's feelings or availability
- Repeating the same relationship patterns
- Feeling either overly self-reliant or overly dependent
Attachment styles are not fixed. With awareness and support, you can move toward a more secure, satisfying way of relating.
The Attachment Styles
Secure
Comfort with closeness and independence; the foundation we help clients build toward.
Anxious
A longing for closeness paired with fear of abandonment and a need for reassurance.
Avoidant
Valuing independence to the point of distancing from intimacy and emotional needs.
Disorganized
A push-pull pattern, often rooted in trauma, that mixes a desire for and fear of closeness.
Approaches to Attachment Work
We help you understand your patterns with compassion and develop the security to connect more freely.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
Working directly with attachment needs to build secure emotional bonds.
Psychodynamic Exploration
Understanding how early experiences shaped your relational patterns.
Cognitive Approaches
Identifying and reshaping core beliefs about yourself and relationships.
Earned Security Building
Practicing new ways of relating that cultivate trust and self-assurance.
Benefits of Attachment Therapy
Break free from old patterns and build the secure, fulfilling relationships you want.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can my attachment style really change?
Yes. While attachment patterns form early, research shows they can change. Through therapy and corrective relational experiences, people develop what's called 'earned security.'
How do I find out my attachment style?
Therapy can help you explore your patterns, and we also offer a self-discovery guide. Understanding your style is the first step toward changing it.
Is attachment work only for couples?
No. Attachment work is valuable individually as well -- understanding your own patterns benefits all your relationships, whether or not a partner is involved.
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